A year ago life brought me to Christina. Her friend thought that it would be a great idea for her to take the Loving Song class with me. Christina was not sure she could do it, and maybe not even sure she wanted to do it. We talked on the phone and then she invited me to her home. That was the beginning of a new relationship between her and a stranger that brought change into her relationship with her son, Mason.
When I first went to Christina's home I saw a woman, a new mom, with amazingly gentle eyes, a beautiful tender voice and loving energy but who was scared, insecure, tired and needed help. The moment that deeply touched me was when I offered to bring her some water while her son was sleeping in her arms. The gratitude in her eyes for the simple gesture of bringing water to her is something I will never forget.
The power of a simple act of kindness.
Later that day I wrote a note to Christina's friend: "She is happy to have you as a friend who sent me to her. She needs help."
My mission with Christina was to help her establish eye contact with her son - the base for any kind of meaningful, baby directed interaction.
It may sound easy, maybe even trivial. However, the lack of eye contact can inhibit the baby from connecting to the parent and therefore connecting to the outside world and to him/her self. Eye contact is the base for bonding and attachment.
I was honored and delighted to see the change in Christina and Mason. The programs I teach: the Musical Baby Bonding TM and the International's Association of Infant Massage's program, have both helped Christina gain confidence, understand her baby, relax and enjoy motherhood.
I knew she was struggling but I did not know how deeply.
I knew I helped her but I did not know how much I had impacted her and her family.
The sincerity and range of emotions she is expressing in this video just blew me away. The number of important subjects she touches in her testimonial is precious - postpartum depression and anxiety, isolation and loneliness, insecurity and fears, the importance of partner support, and all the "simple" challenges of motherhood and parenting.
This is why I decided to make it a longer video by any latest-fast paced standards.
My intention is to bring an important story to light and to tell all the moms out there - motherhood does not have to be a picture-perfect event. You are allowed to feel it all - the good, the bad and the ugly. You are not alone and there are people who can help if you reach out.